After talking with family, friends and even a professional who is used to dealing with family issues, we have been encouraged to share our story.
We have lived with a particular situation for over thirty years and have just gotten used to what we have been dealing with. It’s something we’ve learned to live with, and really don’t give it much thought. It’s just a fact of life.
When we began putting together a book about my husband’s family and sharing stories with many of his family members, those conversations shed a new light on our dilemma. They made us realize how incredibly bizarre much of the behavior we have had to deal with over the past thirty years really is.
So this blog has been created to express our feelings about everything we’ve gone through, as well as share our story with all of you. We’ll touch on the terrible trauma resulting from child abuse and how it can affect a person for many, many years to come. We’ll share how that trauma often manifests itself, since we have firsthand knowledge of many of the classic symptoms of child abuse.
We’ll share what my in-laws had to go through, which is a situation identical to the one my husband has also gone through. On a lighter note, we’ll share memories and stories from my in-laws’ families, which is in direct contradiction to what is being published on genealogy websites about our family.
Genealogy will also be a subject here. Specifically how one individual is trying to re-write history through genealogy. “On a personal note …..” is a completely inappropriate way to start a genealogical post, especially when the posted “stories” have no basis in truth. Making up something about someone who is gone, simply to make herself feel better, is the lowest of the low. While many people have urged us to do the same and post details about her father’s behavior before his death — all of which is actually documented by public record — we prefer not to stoop to her level and have refrained from doing so. Although it can be very tempting ….. 🙂
While we are very private people, it has felt good to share our story with family and friends. And perhaps this will help someone else who is going through the same thing. It is not normal to have an ex-spouse follow your every move, for over thirty years. It is not normal to have an ex-spouse obsess about your wife’s hobbies. The list goes on and on and on …….
Stay tuned, and thank you for taking the time to read this blog. There will be much more to follow.