During a discussion with someone about our prior posts, the person — very matter-of-factly stated: “Well she is a pathological liar.”
I oftentimes felt our alienating parent was simply bent on arguing with me. If I said the sky was blue, she’d disagree and say it was pink …. and post her thoughts about my observation on a genealogy website (of course). For instance, when I mentioned my Irish ancestry, she made sure to voice her opinion about people who fake being Irish.
But, after reviewing a lot of the documents we’ve amassed over the years, and seeing details set down in writing, I wonder if that person is actually correct in his observation that our alienating parent is a “pathological liar.” I have first hand knowledge of many occasions where I’ve seen her lie about a situation and I wondered why. What benefit did she get out of lying? Would good was lying doing her? Was she lying just for the sake of lying? It does make you wonder, doesn’t it?
When discussing pathological, or chronic, liars, Wikihow notes: “There may be other personality disorders at issue, such as narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder.”
Another portion of that article reads: “Insecurity. Low self esteem is one of the biggest reasons why people become pathological liars. Whether they consciously recognize it or not, a pathological liar feels that he or she is not important enough as they are so they must make up accomplishments or events to position themselves as worthy.”