Larry’s divorce took place in the late 1970’s, well before joint custody was even thought of. His ex, of course, got custody ….. and that’s all we ever heard: “as custodial parent, I’ve decided this” and “I’ve decided that.” This gave the alienating parent an avenue to try and make the targeted parent’s life miserable, and our alienating parent used it to her full advantage. The targeted parent had no input whatsoever on what was in the children’s “best interests.”
She controlled her house, our house and even her former in-law’s house — and made sure we all knew it. She questioned every aspect of the time her children spent with their father, as well as with their paternal grandparents.
Here you have a custodial parent, collecting child support, having her day care expenses paid for by County Services, illegally using her ex-husband’s insurance for her own medical expenses years the divorce ….. and she allows her child to go out in the winter with a filthy coat that is too small? That’s in the best interests of the child?
Her youngest daughter had been wearing this jacket for two winters. It was too small, but we still tried to clean it. This is how it looked after soaking and three washings. We finally gave up and bought the child a new winter coat. And guess what Mom’s response was?
She wanted the old one back!
And the funny part about this is, she addressed her note “To Whom It May Concern” and signed it “Her Mother …. DXXXX MXXXXX” as if she didn’t know our names, and as if we didn’t know that she was the child’s mother.
Welcome to our world ….