“Obsessors can’t let a connection end completely, because they may believe themselves to have been so wronged that they “need” to punish or seek revenge against the leaving partner. Even in cases where an Obsessor was wronged in some way, their desire for revenge and how long they cling to these emotions (to the detriment of their own life and others lives), is completely out of proportion to what injustices may have occurred.” [Source: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com ]
Today is Larry and my 30th wedding anniversary. He and Our Little Friend have been divorced over 36 years. I did not even meet him until years after his divorce, so I had nothing to do with that. His relationship with his children was rocky and/or non-existent throughout most of their childhood, and has now ended completely.
We touched on OLF’s obsession with her ex early on in this blog and reading the paragraph from abusesanctuary certainly reinforces our contention that she is, in fact, obsessed with her ex and the ongoing contact with us. After 36 years, she still feels the need to punish and seek revenge, by using his parents’ genealogical information, by posting her thoughts on public venues via the internet, by watching every move we make ….. The list goes on and on.
Her behavior is completely out of proportion with any injustices that may have occurred.
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”
~~ Steve Maraboli