My husband completed a questionnaire about Hostile Aggressive Parenting and was not surprised to see that his situation ranked in the “Extreme Risk of Harm to Child” category:
The score was : 586
(Don’t forget to also take the Parental Alienation evaluation form)
For extreme risk of harm situations, effective intervention strategies should be employed as quickly as possible to stop the influences of the HAP parent from causing any further harm to the child and hopefully to begin the process or reversing any potential psychological damage already done to the child. Where it has been determined that a child is in the extreme risk of harm category and there is at least one critical risk factor present, removal of custodial and/or access rights to the child must usually be taken away from the HAP parent as quickly as possible in order to bring relief to the situation and to ensure that the child’s exposure to HAP influences is significantly and immediately reduced. The complete removal of the HAP parent’s custody rights on a temporary basis sends in this situation a strong message that the actions of the HAP will not be tolerated by society. Under conditions of extreme risk of harm to the child, and where one critical risk indicator is present, the following intervention is recommended:
- That the HAP parent’s current custody status (sole or joint) be temporarily suspended until such time as it can be determined using the “risk assessment protocol” that the parent no longer poses an extreme risk of harm to the child stemming from HAP and its associated risk factors.
- That the HAP parent’s access rights with the child be reviewed and access suspended temporarily should the required criteria for suspending access to the child be met. Supervised access should be considered for parents who are considered as posing an extreme risk of harm to their child.
- That the currently residency arrangements of the child be reviewed and the primary residence of the child be changed on a temporary basis should the required criteria for altering the residency of the child be met.
- That, as the first option, the child should be placed under the care and control of the other parent or another family member where an assessment has determined the child not to be at extreme risk of harm caused by an HAP party.
- That a psychological assessment or parenting assessment or evaluation on the HAP parent should be conducted by a competent professional in an attempt to find the root causes of the HAP behaviours.
- That a plan of care for the child be developed that can reasonably show how the risk of harm from HAP will be reduced prior to any consideration is made to re-establish any parenting or custodial rights.
In most cases involving children at high risk, intervention will not be pleasant to implement and in many cases, may meet severe opposition from the child, especially when it comes to curtailing the child’s time with the HAP parent. Although there may be what can be referred to as “short term pain” in reversing the damage done to a child because of HAP, inevitably, the child will benefit from the “long term gain” of appropriate intervention. There are a number of cases on record where children who have been kidnapped from another parent for sometime long periods of time have been successfully re-integrated back with a parent they have not seen for a long period of time. In these cases the courts ordered the kidnapping parents to be jailed and the children physically placed with the parent who the child had not seen for a long period of time, sometimes years. The damage to children caused by HAP or PAS can be reversed if strong measures are taken.
We highly recommend going through this site as well: UpToParents.org