We noticed people coming to this blog by searching the term “Schadenfreude” and were not surprised by what we found when we looked into that term a little further.
Schadenfreude (/ˈʃɑːdənfrɔɪdə/; German: [ˈʃaːdn̩ˌfʀɔɪ̯də]) is pleasure derived from the misfortunes of others. This word is taken from German and literally means “harm-joy”. It is the feeling of joy or pleasure when one sees another fail or suffer misfortune. It is also borrowed by some other languages. An English term of similar meaning (but with no noun equivalent) is “to gloat”; which means to feel, or express, great, often malicious, pleasure, or self-satisfaction, at one’s own success, or at another’s failure. [Source: Wikipedia]
We’re sure our alienating parent takes great pleasure from the fact that the father of her children has had no contact with them for over seven years — that he has grandchildren he has never met — and that she gets to spend so much time with them. She was definitely successful in alienating her children their father; and he failed at maintaining a relationship with them.
And we are certain of the pleasure she takes from that situation, because — even though we have not seen or talked to the children in years — our alienating parent makes certain to post on websites that we visit (genealogy, photography, etc.) about what she thinks of us.
Oh yes, she takes great pleasure from the pain she has caused, and makes sure everyone knows exactly how she feels ……