We had a long talk with a friend of ours the other day, who reminded us of the situation her brother went through. He was married and had two children. When he and his wife divorced, the children were teenagers. Prior to the divorce, the children had a close, loving relationship with their father.
After the divorce, however, the children completely cut their father out of their lives. They also had no relationship with their paternal family. This went on for several years ….. until the father was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
When the “children” (who are adults by now) learned of their father’s condition, they rallied around him. He only survived a very short time. After he passed away, the children, as well as their mother, were at the funeral services, standing by their father’s coffin.
The young lady who their father had been engaged to, and living with; however, was not welcome at the service and was not in attendance.
Shortly after the funeral, the children went to their father’s home and took all of his personal belongings, even those which had been purchased by their father’s fiance.
And shortly thereafter, the children ended their relationship with their paternal family — again.
Our friend said: “who disowns their own grandmother?” Alienated children, that’s who. They were in their father’s life long enough to benefit from his death, but now want nothing more to do with his family — their own grandmother, aunts, uncles and cousins.
And I’m sure, in the mind of an alienated child, this is acceptable — and normal — behavior.
That is what is so frightening about Parental Alienation: the children think their behavior is natural and ordinary.
Is it typical for a person to disown half of their family? When you’ve been raised by an alienating parent, unfortunately, the answer is yes.