Psychology Today has narrowed down the reasons people with psychological issues lie to the following:
- They lie for popularity: simply put, these people want attention and do believe that their regular selves are not good enough. They create stories and events where they are admirable heroes or, alternatively, situations where they are horribly victimized. Either way, the attention they get, the sympathy or the admiration, fuel them for more.
- They lie to control: these people manipulate the facts to gain psychological supremacy over others. They do it to scare them or to make them feel bad. They get a thrill out of emotionally toying with their feelings. And the more they get away with it, the more they’d want to do it.
- They lie because they are insecure: although we all do that in varying degrees, Those who constantly lie about every single detail of their lives are a different story. It would make sense if you felt bad about your bad grades and wanted to hide the fact from, say, your faraway cousins. But these people would go as far as making up a whole new life with tiny irrelevant details. It’s as if they want to be someone else.
If you’re dealing with someone with psychological issues, one of the common manifestations is pathological lying — lying all the time, and lying when there’s no logical reason to even lie. Understanding why they lie may not solve the problem, but it might make it easier to understand. They lie for attention; they lie to control and they lie because they are insecure.